In life, we’re well trained to do our research before buying into something. Whether its test driving a variety of cars before purchase or viewing as many homes as possible before entering into a 20-year mortgage, we know that investigation is the key to satisfaction. So why does this same logical approach to life seem to disappear when it comes to love and marriage? Marriage counseling in San Mateo, CA strives to provide couples with the information they need to know before entering into that “forever and always” relationship, and they do so by:
Providing a Safe Speak Arena
The office of a premarital counselor should be neutral ground, meaning couples should feel safe to express whatever it is they may be feeling without judgement or repercussion. Pre marriage counseling provides couples with the opportunity to air any questions, concerns, grievances or hopes for the future without worry. By being able to do so in the office of a counselor, couples then have a place to talk out their problems before they’re already well invested in the relationship – financially, emotionally and otherwise.
Offering an Unbiased Opinion
Every relationship looks perfect on the outside, but for those within it, they know it’s anything but. A premarital counselor will sit down with you and discuss any fears or worries that you or your mate may have. They will talk about that volatile blow up that you had last Saturday night help you both sort it out. They are there to not choose a side, but rather offer an unbiased third-party opinion as to what’s been going on and how you both can learn from it and improve your relationship. Your counselor will deliver the honesty that both you and your partner need to “get real” about your situation and the roles that you both played in its development.
Cementing Your Bond
If there’s one thing that pre marriage counseling will give you, it’s unparalleled communication skills. The ultimate goal of a counselor is to teach you and your partner how to communicate with one another in a variety of circumstances. How to be empathetic, actively listen, and get your point are all highlights, and are key to having a healthy relationship with your future spouse.
In order to reap the benefits of a pre marriage counselor in San Mateo, CA, couples need to do their due diligence in finding out which counselors provide the best care for both parties and which are only interested in investing in the drama. Before choosing the right counselor for you and your partner, look into the training, the experience, and most importantly how comfortable you both feel with them. If you have all three, then you have the best pre marriage counselor helping you and your partner for many decades of a successful marriage.
If you’re ready to strengthen your relationship and explore the transformative benefits of marriage counseling, Claudio Vargas Silva, LMFT, is here to guide you every step of the way. With extensive experience in helping couples build healthier, more fulfilling relationships, Claudio offers compassionate and effective marriage counseling services in San Mateo, CA.
